Zande: we teach them that their bodies do not really belong to them

"When we force children to submit to unwanted affection in order not to offend a relative or hurt a friend's feelings, we teach them that their bodies do not really belong to them because they have to push aside their own feelings about what feels right to them," said Irene van der Zande, co-founder and executive director of Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International, a nonprofit specializing in teaching personal safety and violence prevention. "This leads to children getting sexually abused, teen girls submitting to sexual behavior so 'he'll like me' and kids enduring bullying because everyone is 'having fun.' "

Irene van der Zande, co-founder and executive director of Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International 

http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/20/living/give-grandma-hug-child/index.html